tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4963024173016745505.post9163565546932549368..comments2023-12-27T08:49:41.177-06:00Comments on Gust Gab: Let them be little...darciehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/03611334115957929814noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4963024173016745505.post-51439085582342389402009-11-12T11:57:06.828-06:002009-11-12T11:57:06.828-06:00You cannot be overprotective.
Go with your gut. ...You cannot be overprotective.<br /><br />Go with your gut. No two ways about it -- go with your gut.Jillhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06671446238805535547noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4963024173016745505.post-87315124566333595222009-11-12T09:23:12.343-06:002009-11-12T09:23:12.343-06:00My comment is going to be short and sweet. Go with...My comment is going to be short and sweet. Go with your gut, you know whats right. You are their mother, potector, and mama bear. Roar when you need to, redirect when you need to, and simply leave if you need to. No one knows your children better than you.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03740260622611866834noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4963024173016745505.post-46636305674166492272009-11-03T19:57:21.179-06:002009-11-03T19:57:21.179-06:00I have thought about this all day wondering what I...I have thought about this all day wondering what I would do in the same situation.<br /><br />I do not think under any circumstances children at daycare should be allowed outside in an unsecured facility alone. Ever. I would not care that they were within ear/eye shot - there is no way there is a provider who can make lunch and effectively be supervising children who are outside at the same time.<br /><br />I'm glad you are getting your daughter to open up to you a bit about the environment and what she is experiencing that is causing her a bit of anxiety - her opening up and trusting you is the only way that you can help her.<br /><br />I didn't realize we have children almost exactly the same age! My middle son turned 4 at the end of June and my daughter turned 2 beginning of August.<br /><br />So I'm thinking about my son - being outside alone in an unfenced yard . . . um, no, I don't think so!<br /><br />Good luck Darcie - I know this has to be so stressful and I don't doubt you're losing sleep!~kris~https://www.blogger.com/profile/17943192589297063113noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4963024173016745505.post-45141070246084996122009-11-03T13:11:59.438-06:002009-11-03T13:11:59.438-06:00You are their one and only mommy. That means it do...You are their one and only mommy. That means it doesn't matter what anyone thinks or what anyone else's rules are. You know what? Every child is different. Workshops and professionals may learn a curve, and that's fine. But this is YOUR child. You do what your heart says to do--you know that sweet little four year old better than anyone else on this earth. Good for you for asking for her to stay in during lunch making. Kids don't need to feel unnecessary fear! <3 you, you're doing an awesome job!!AKA "Meesh"https://www.blogger.com/profile/00857514246767323710noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4963024173016745505.post-66506025926189249192009-11-03T10:19:47.494-06:002009-11-03T10:19:47.494-06:00Maybe I am the one that coddles my children, but I...Maybe I am the one that coddles my children, but I don't think that kids at a daycare should EVER, EVER be outside alone. EVER. I hope that you can work things out. I think that Buck is right about the kids seeing your confidence in the provider, but what she (the provider) said to you makes me want to defend you. You have a right to demand a safe environment for your child without being told that we have gotten too "soft" with our kids. 30 years ago it was a different planet. You cannot compare then and now. I hope that they continue to work with you and that things start to get better. I'm sorry that you are having to deal with this stress.Kate @ Ex Librishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16161681565485372950noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-4963024173016745505.post-74732209831898943822009-11-03T10:01:19.468-06:002009-11-03T10:01:19.468-06:00It seems to me there's a difference between ma...It seems to me there's a difference between making your kids feel safe and "coddling" them. You have taught your children an important lesson - kids need an adult when they play outside. There are so many reasons this rule is legitimate. The fact that your children listen to you and take you seriously is a good thing. And having a little fear of being outside alone doesn't seem like a bad thing here. When they are older, they can have more freedom. <br /><br />So to say that there's a problem with H being tentative about being outside alone seems ridiculous. Perhaps she is more than capable of playing outside without supervision. It doesn't matter. She is young and small and without a fenced yard, there is no protection. Forget about strangers, what about a loose dog? I'm just saying you're not wrong to have taught your children this, and it seems to me it's your caregivers responsibility to respect your rules.<br /><br />That said, yes, H will have to adapt to many changes in life. School, changing teachers, leaving her brother behind at daycare, etc. But you know what? As those changes happen, she'll be getting older and more mature. And the best thing you can teach her is what you've done so far, that you are listening to her fears and that you'll do your best to calm them. She's not trying to get dolls and presents from you, she's looking for security and you're providing it.<br /><br />Assuming you trust that your children are safe with the new providers, I think leaving them there is a good thing, it shows your kids that you're confident in your choice. That said, I also think it's important that you continue to listen to their fears and continue to show H that you trust her new caregiver and that you will work with that person to make her feel comfortable. You show her that while this might not be her first choice, it's still a good choice and she's going to be great there.<br /><br />I didn't mean to write a novel. Oops. :)Buckhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00456229162833149531noreply@blogger.com