Only the Good...

Thursday, August 18, 2011

Ten years ago...
Rob and I moved into this house...We had a 5 year ARM, thinking we'd be here 3, maybe 5 years tops...
Ten years people...
Ten years we are still here...
This is why...

You see this group of people here??

This is a group photo of AMAZING neighbor friends during an annual tradition...

Seriously...

The neighbors make the house...
They do...
I'm telling you.

And when you don't have family in town...the friends that you have become your family. Especially when your friends live just steps away from you...

The other day, my cell phone rang while I was at work...

Monday morning...and I see a neighbor pop up on my caller ID.
Well, this is bad news...
Yep, I immediately thought that.

The neighbors that were calling have a parent with some health issues and I was sure that that was it.

'I have some bad news'
I figured you did.
It's not what you are thinking...
um, ok...So I'm thinking to myself...
Did my house burn down? Seriously...that's what I thought...
Gary collapsed at work this morning and he didn't make it. He died this morning.

Gary.

Our 51 year old friend & neighbor.
Strong as an ox.
Stubborn as a mule.
As gentle as they come...
Fifty. One.

Here's a picture of Gary holding our baby girl at 4 days old...about 4 minutes after we brought her home from the NICU.


He loved kids...

and meant the world to ours.

Always horsing around...acting the part of the crazy uncle or grandpa, family our kids don't have around these here parts...

Gary took D on his first ever quad ride...

Derek loved to ride the quad with Gary...around the cul de sac, through the back yards...as fast as they dared to go...up and down curbs...

What every little (and big!) boy dreams of No?




 Hails was the flower girl for a Kubal family wedding two years ago...What fun they had!

Each year on Halloween - we gather in our cul de sac and light a bonfire (one of several throughout the year) we take the kids around the neighborhood trick or treating, & we pass out candy from all the houses right there in the middle of the cul de sac...

Every year, it's cold...the kids snuggle up with...guess who...
Gary.




This picture was taken earlier this summer...
Gary & Derek sharing a plate of veggies at the neighborhood grad party...

I have so many random pictures from random events...
I'm sure glad I do!

Sometimes people make fun of me for always carrying around a camera...
(of course, now, our phones do most of this for us too...)

But just look at this little video snippet I found of Gary entertaining the kiddos...

video
And of course, the dog biscuit fondue...aye aye aye!
video

I wonder how long it will take until the loss of this man really sinks in.
The kids are really struggling with it...

Even though my mom, their grandma, passed away exactly one year ago...we only saw her a couple of times a year...We talked on the phone near daily...but
This is the loss of someone they saw all the time...someone who was a regular fixture in their everyday lives...

They've been asking crazy questions like...
"Is my Dad gone foreva?" when he's just gone to work...
or saying things like 'What if that was my last chance to cuddle Daddy?' or 'I don't want to go to Daddy's softball game cuz Gary won't be there to pop my popcorn bag'

oh how Hailey loved to have Gary pop her empty popcorn bag at the softball games! HA!
The things their little hearts and minds must have weighing on them...
ugh.
I regret that I never told Gary just how very much he meant to our family, to our kiddos...but I pray that he might have known anyway.
And I pray that his family will find the comfort and the peace they need to move forward in the days and weeks ahead...

Rest in Peace Gary.


Rest in Peace.

4 comments:

fritzfacts said...

I can't begin to tell you how sorry I am for his family, and for your neighborhood. The loss is so hard when so sudden.

I have been thinking of you.

Disney Cars Toys said...

You are lucky to have nice and fun neighbors! Great community for raising kids :-)

Betsy Schneck said...

You honored him well in this post, we will miss him more than we can imagine....BUT he left his mark on all us and that will never go away. I love my friends here in the neighborhood, after over 20 years....you are all "family" Love you Gary!

Be the change... said...

So sad, I have goosebumps and tears for you. Very well written, it is very clear that you loved him. So sorry honey...xoxo

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